Reverse your warrior, might sound familiar in yoga.
The thing is that sweating the small stuff in life, drive us into arguments that have no way out.
Furthermore, drains and drags down our energies.
During a Yoga practice we learn how to progress from a beginner’s class to an advanced.
It doesn’t guarantee that you will be able to perform, the hundreds of poses available through the discipline.
As a Holistic Practitioner with Foundation in Yoga, and an Active Duty Military Warrior when I teach, begin with an Integration within the Yoga Class or Safety Briefing ( as we would refer in the military) when we begin, and complete any task.
The importance of the breath connection, and control, is priority number one.
We encourage that “Breath is life.”
The importance of protecting, and engaging ourselves from a threat is parallel to counter pose when short of breath in yoga.
The introduction of child pose or balasana, becomes the Holy Grail, when is time to recover, and reverse our warrior.
It’s so rejuvenating that I would honor that pose with the “Thanks God Asana.”
This is an encouragement to listen to our bodies, to identify that moment by applying mental flexibility, and right judgment so we can retreat, and protect ourselves from unnecessary injuries.
If we cultivate the habit to stop and think about the criteria for passing up one battle, and choosing to engage in another, we would set ourselves on good start.
Moreover, when it pays to keep in mind that when adrenaline rises to overdose stage, words don’t perfectly express what we mean.
We use them as if they’re much more precise than they really are.
When faced with a potential insult, conflict can be avoided by training yourself to be a little less sensitive, hence will be lowering your reactivity levels to fly, and fight back with a clouded response that could eventually turn into a potential misfire or even worst a painful backfire.
The most effective negotiators bypass insults and treat them as accidents because when doing otherwise might prevent them from achieving their goals.
If applying feedback such as:
” I might have phrased it differently, but I’m getting your drift”
“That’s not the first or last time I’ve heard something along those lines, but let’s get back to what we were making progress” so we could turn a conversation headed for conflict back onto a more productive path.
There will be a great difference.
Not every conflict is worth turning into a major battle.
There are certain battles which simply cannot be won no matter how much effort we could put into them or what strategies applied.
They are simply losing causes, and fighting such battles does little to help us accomplish the ultimate objectives.
The wise man or woman will not let his/ her pride, and anger get in the way of obtaining his/her goals, and fighting a battle which cannot be won.
The outcome of allowing emotions that much power, will give birth to a clouded judgment,
hence an undesirable behavior display.
We won’t want to be haunted by intrusive regretful thoughts, or overwhelming mixed feelings, so let’s evaluate…
When is a battle not worth the aftermath?
It might work better not to engage when:
1. Upon reflection, winning isn’t as important as it originally seemed.
2. There likely will be a timedown the line when you can raise the issue again with a different person or in a different way.
3. There’s a low probability of winning without doing excessive damage.
4. You could win on the immediate issue, but lose big in terms of the relationship.
5. The other party’s style is provocative whether speaking with you or others, so it’s not worth taking personally.
When there isn’t an argument to feel strongly, regards an issue is probably when above tips will be helpful.
I am not a chess expert but I find beauty during a chess match, when I see a pawn vulnerable, and powerful at the same time.
After the overall scheme of things, when arriving alive to the other side of the board, the Pawn gets promoted to King, which provides a more supportive scenario for the capture of the opponents King.
It is important to keep in mind that retreating from an individual battle does not mean that you are surrendering or declaring defeat in the war.
A battle is no more than that …one battle.
In the military when troops are thinly stretched, they are often unsuccessful.
An example, is when a country tries to fight a war on two fronts, it often struggles to secure both, and sometimes it is more advisable to deal with one issue before proceeding to the next to help ensure success.
The more fronts a military is coping with, the harder it is to handle the strategic and day-to-day operations on all of these fronts, and sometimes a front must be abandoned because there are not enough personnel to secure it, this weakens the defense, with outcome far from postcards, and flowers on a Valentine’s day.
We might be struggling to deal with an unruly child.
Rather than trying to address every aspect of the child’s problematic behavior, we could pick one serious issue to focus on first, such as a tendency to stay out late.
Once this issue had been dealt with, the parent could move on to other problems.
“Remember patience is a virtue “
While this approach might take longer than trying to handle everything all at once, there is a higher probability of success, since the parent can take the time to work through each problem carefully and precisely to ensure that it is dealt with.
Children don’t arrive (as we say in the military) with a Memorandum Of Instructions (MOI) or Standard Operation Procedure (SOP) during delivery.
We all try our best to accomplish this task, however when we survive is good karma to share, which sustains what I’m doing at this moment.
Catching back with this battlefield/war analogy;
A battle is simply one skirmish; your ultimate objective is to win the war.
Don’t let your pride or anger interfere with your overall victory.
It might sound easier said than done, but it is an important part of the game.
A game that takes some self-discipline and practice to perfect.
Be willing to sacrifice a battle here and there in order to win the war in the end, and don’t waste energy fighting a battle which cannot be won at any cost.
“When you surround an army, leave an outlet free. Do not press a desperate foe too hard.”-Sun Tzu
Last but not least;
Glenda Lee Santos; Humble Military and Yoga Warrior; RYT-200 hrs; Criminal Justice, BA; Holistic Practitioner with Foundation in Yoga and Ayurveda.
Book: Sun Tzu “The Art of War”/ translated with Historical Introduction by Ralph D. Sawyer, and collaboration of Mei-Chün Lee Sawyer(1994 edition)
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