The Requiem Before Resiliency…

Only those willing to walk through the dark night, will be able to see the beauty of the moon and the brilliance of the stars.

Have you ever felt into a relationship, job, marriage or whatever comes to your mind embracing the following scenario:

From having a balanced (self loving oriented) heart chakra turning to over-active (unable to say no when in disagreement to certain things) to suddenly blocked (unforgiving) into the struggle to let go, without attachments even showing signs of co-dependency behavior?

You realize that there is no longer purpose to stay at certain place.

Suddenly time passes by while you end up realizing that it is time to lift a flag and if the scenario does not improve making you feel trapped, empty and unhappy. As such you could be in perfect state of health and when least expected during a routinely check up, receive an distasteful result.

Well my friends such is life. It is time to embrace that “kraken” instead of living in life long misery or unhappiness. It is time to let go and keep moving on…

Everything has a solution, which is into our hands to reach and self rescue.

It is time to love yourself enough to develop the required strength to initiate as such a transcendental movement.

Don’t you think that listening to that voice coming from within your soul, like melody, or even mantra has no purpose…

Because that is your wisdom intuitive body, lighting the path through this journey of resiliency.

Let’s begin with what is requiem.

It is a religious ceremony performed for the death. And please do not start running away from the word death.

Death is to life like night is to day. Or sunset to sunrise.

However, a requiem can also be a piece of music used for this ceremony or in any other context honoring those who have died or left.

I can’t help drawing back (years ago) my attention to a picture sent by my sister showing a box tighten with a black ribbon, and labeled as the surrender box.

Her soul surrendered to a draining energetic relationship that was not making her happy and she made that ceremony in order to let go and begin to move on.

1. To move on and rebirth from requiem would be the first and most important goal. Develop a goal setting structure.

• Definition

• Be present (Boots on the ground)

• Prioritize

• Follow up (What’s important now)

• Maintain motivation

• Monitor progress

Once you have that set…

2. Hunt for the good stuff (HTGS):

Not everything was bad at that place that allowed you too stay for so long if possible instead of recalling bad experiences focus on those moments that were surrounded by love and light .

3. Identifying your thoughts and the activating event:

This is important, because the consequences will spot your emotions which lastly inspired your final decision.

Recommendation and Example:

Journaling helps a lot, before assessment of the thought theme write down the activating event for each.

Loss (thought theme) vs Sadness/Withdrawal (emotions/reactions)

Danger vs Anxiety/Agitation.

Trespass vs Anger/ Aggression.

Inflicting harm vs Guilt/Apologizing.

Negative comparison vs Embarrassment/Hiding.

Positive contribution vs Pride/sharing, planning future achievements.

Appreciating what you have (HTGS) received vs Gratitude/giving thanks, paying forward.

Positive future vs Hope/Energizing, taking action.

Stop everything for a moment and draw your awareness to your physical body, its current state after that bring your focus to the present moment, and perform more optimally.

How will you do this?

4. Energize:

Too easy “Just Breathe”

Begin to manage the level of energy flow this requires conscious breathing.

Refer to the menu at the page “Breath Is Life” where you will find different options of breathing exercises with instructions.

5. Avoid thinking traps:

Identify and correct counterproductive patterns in thinking through the use of Mental Cues and Critical Questions.

Example:

• Jumping to Conclusions: What is the evidence?

• Mind Reading: Am I expressing myself? Did I ask for information?

Hey if you don’t speak up, how do you expect others to listen?

• Me, Me, Me: Imagine that you are visualizing yourself and the scene through an outward lenses. Write this question How did others or the circumstances contribute?

• Them, Them, Them: Repeat the above last step, but changing the question to How did I contribute?

• Everything, Everything, Everything: Straight to the point. What is the specific behavior that explains the situation? What specific area of my life will be affected?

6. Identify and Balance any possible Icebergs:

We all have core beliefs and values target those that fuel out of proportion emotions and reactions.

The letter W three times, will help you. So let us begin with:

What is the most upsetting part of that for me?

What does that mean to me?

What is the worst part of that for me?

Now an iceberg is freezing so you might want to warm up and shelter yourself with objectivity.

Draw your awareness to:

• Whether you/ still believe/ value this freezing moment in order to consider if it could be overly rigid in certain scenarios.

• If your Iceberg is getting in your way in some situations and what specific actions you would take in order to modify and be flexible to make adjustments.

• What could you do to change your emotions or reactions to make these types of situations go better for yourself and others.

• If there is a more direct verbal approach for an assertive conversation.

7. Problem Solving:

Accurarely identify what caused the problem and identify solution strategies.

8. Put in Perspective:

Stop catastrophic thinking , reduce anxiety, and improve problem solving by identifying the worst, best, and most likely outcomes of a situation.

9. Mental Games:

Change the focus away from counterproductive thinking to enable better concentration and focus on the task at hand.

10. Identify character strengths in self and others.

And this is important because it will encourage yourself and others to build on the best of yourself and the best of others.

11. Character strengths: Challenges and Leadership.

Use Character Strengths in yourself and others to overcome challenges, increase team effectiveness, and strengthen your leadership.

12. Assertive Communication:

Communicate clearly and with respect, specially during a conflict or challenge. Use the following IDEAL model to communicate in a confident, clear, and controlled manner.

Identify and understand the problem.

Describe the problem objectively.

Express your concerns and how you feel.

Ask the other person for his/ her perspective and ask for a reasonable change.

List the positive outcomes if the person makes the agreed upon change.

13. Effective Praise and Supportive Responding:

Praise effectively to build mastery and wining streaks. Respond to others with authentic active, and constructive interest to build strong relationships.

Create winning streaks by using

Effective Praise to name strategies, processes, or behaviors that lead to good outcome.

• Active Constructive Responding:

Is a style of responding to someone’s good news. It is the only style that strengthens the relationship.

Last but not least;

“Your mind is a garden. Your thoughts are the seeds. You can grow flowers or you can grow weeds.”-SY

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#therequiemofsoul

#therequiembeforeresiliency

Author:

Glenda Lee Santos; Humble Military and Yoga Warrior; RYT-200 hrs; Criminal Justice, BA; Holistic Practitioner with Foundation in Yoga and Ayurveda; CAI; CAHP; CCR; CCHP; CACR; SGC; MRT.

How to “Acknowledge” each other’s Soul.

We place the hands together at the heart chakra, close the eyes, and bow the head. It can also be done by placing the hands together in front of the third eye, bowing the head, and then bringing the hands down to the heart. This is an especially deep form of respect.

“ My divine soul recognizes the divine soul in you”

The gesture Namaste represents the belief that there is a Divine spark within each of us that is located in the heart chakra.

The gesture is an acknowledgment of the soul in one by the soul in another.

#semperleeyoga

#sempernamaste

#peacefulwarrior

Author:

Glenda Lee Santos; Humble Military and Yoga Warrior; RYT-200 hrs; Criminal Justice, BA; Holistic Practitioner with Foundation in Yoga and Ayurveda; CAI; CAHP; CCR; CCHP; CACR; SGC; MRT.

The Mirror Effect…

Just because the process hurts doesn’t mean the results will not be beautiful…

You must create your own opportunities and strive for balance in order to find harmony.

Anything is possible if you just believe.

Namaste

Author:

Glenda Lee Santos; Humble Military and Yoga Warrior; RYT-200 hrs; Criminal Justice, BA; Holistic Practitioner with Foundation in Yoga and Ayurveda; CAI; CAHP; CCR; CCHP; CACR; SGC; MRT.

Are you like the Fisherman?

Mathew 4:18-22

Jesus Calls Four Fishermen

As Jesus walked along the shore of Lake Galilee, he saw two brothers who were fishermen, Simon (called Peter) and his brother Andrew, catching fish in the lake with a net.

Jesus said to them, “Come with me, and I will teach you to catch people.” At once they left their nets and went with him.

He went on and saw two other brothers, James and John, the sons of Zebedee.

They were in their boat with their father Zebedee, getting their nets ready.

Jesus called them, and at once they left the boat and their father, and went with him.

It was an invitation to follow, that they might be instructed by hearing his teaching and beholding his work.

Jesus called them from a lower to a similar but higher labor.

He calls all honest tradesmen in this manner.

He invites carpenters to build his temple, servants to serve the great King, physicians to heal immortal souls, merchants to invest in pearls of great price, etc.

The fisherman found many points of resemblance between the old and new calling, such as:

1. Daily hardships and dangers; 2. Earnest desires for the objects sought.

3. Skill and wisdom in the use of means, etc. (and this is important). Disciples are fishers, human souls are fish, the world is the sea, the gospel is the net, and eternal life is the shore whither the catch is drawn.

The synthesis here is that “When the student is ready, the teacher will appear.” As such reciprocal development should continue based on respect, empowerment, moreover humility.

Hence, there should not be ground for development of unhealthy cords, based on ego imbalance that could wrongly nurture emotional vulnerability.

Resilience is based on inner cellular self-activation. It is within our DNA. We are born to survive.

The skills are within our tissues, it’s just a matter of making the choice towards bouncing (through adversity), instead of breaking and surrender.

That’s why teaching must flow in reciprocity, and non-stop learning.

Namaste

Author:

Glenda Lee Santos; Humble Military and Yoga Warrior; RYT-200 hrs; Criminal Justice, BA; Holistic Practitioner with Foundation in Yoga and Ayurveda; CAI; CAHP; CCR; CCHP; CACR; SGC; MRT.

How Unity Increases Strength.

“The buddy system is elemental for survival, because it will give the dark forces a different target to aim at.”

I heard the following story during the Integration of a Kundalini Yoga sequence and suddenly, I found myself playing a movie at my mind’s eye of an 18 years military career.

Moreover all the good things I have learned from it. Starting with structure. Not to mention the financial support provided during my college education completion and currently my son’s.

Besides gratitude, there is certainly other important good thing learned across my path: Teamwork and to feel honored by becoming part of both families.

Which are values encouraged within the yoga’s community.

As such is the reason for sharing this story.

When you see geese flying along in “V” formation, you might consider what science has discovered as to why they fly that way.

As each bird flaps its wings, it creates an uplift for the bird immediately following.

By flying in “V” formation, the whole flock adds at least 71 percent greater flying range than if each bird flew on its own. (Someone must have made a PHD) 🤔

People who share a common direction and sense of community can get where they are going more quickly and easily because they are traveling on the trust of one another.

When a goose falls out of formation, it suddenly feels the drag and resistance of trying to go it alone and quickly gets back into formation to take advantage of the lifting power of the bird in front.

If we have as much sense as a goose, we will stay in formation with those people who are headed the same way we are.

When the head goose gets tired, it rotates back in the wing and another goose flies point. (Everyone should develop leadership skills)

It is sensible to take turns doing demanding jobs, whether with people or with geese flying south.

Geese honk from behind to encourage those up front to keep up their speed.

What messages do we give when we honk from behind?

Finally (and this is important)

When a goose gets sick or is wounded by gunshot, and falls out of formation, two other geese fall out with that goose and follow it down to lend help and protection. (Never leave a fallen comrade behind).

They stay with the fallen goose until it is able to fly or until it dies, and only then do they launch out on their own, or with another formation to catch up with their group.

If we have the sense of a goose, we will stand by each other like that.

Last but not least;

Always, always remember that it is a privilege to be part of a community or family…

#military

#yoga

#peacefulwarriorsunite

Team work and the buddy’s system during Acroyoga practice.

“Semper Audietur et altera pars”

(Always listen to the other side or to your buddy)

Namaste 🙏🏼

Author:

Glenda Lee Santos; Humble Military and Yoga Warrior; RYT-200 hrs; Criminal Justice, BA; Holistic Practitioner with Foundation in Yoga and Ayurveda; CAI; CAHP; CCR; CCHP; CACR; SGC; MRT.